Tend to your own garden.
Looks like I was circling around this gem from a very early age.
It was decades later when it landed on me like a ton of bricks.
Trying to manage, care-take and oversee others lives is the folliest of folly. It is a subconscious distraction from your own weedy little flower bed. The inner life of another being is a mystery to you. Unknowable. Their motivations, you can only guess at. So stop spending your precious time on it.
You’ve been given a life to manage.
How are you doing?